I have another blog where I have posted family and crafty stuff since 2004. This week I saw this post pop up from June of 2009 and loved re-reading it. I thought it was worth sharing it here. There will always be nay-sayers to the role of Mother. Even some within our faith, as this individual was. This was a great reminder of what I felt back then and what I feel even more today. Below is the post.
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So, I had an email conversation this weekend with a guy I have never met. It doesn't really matter who he was or how we were connected because that's not really important to the story. But he said something to me during the end of our email exchanges that was very interesting and I thought was worth addressing here.
He wrote with dripping disdain,
"You are one of those Stay-at-Home-Moms who thinks she is making the world a better place by scrapbooking, raising kids and sharing recipes on her blog."
To which I responded,
"Yes. Yes I am. I absolutely AM making the world a better place by raising children in the gospel, trying to teach them and make them turn out to be good people. And by documenting their lives and my own in scrapbooks.
It seems obvious that you are one of those people who thinks that traditional values and dedicated Mothers are an antiquated notion that is out of style. But when you degrade the institution of Motherhood, just remember that you degrade your own Mother and women in general."
Now, don't get me wrong bloggies. What this guy said did not in any way hurt my feelings. He is currently living at home with his parents, is 30, jobless and single. And I truly don't care what others think of me unless those "others" are people I love and respect.
But, in a funny way, he made me realize one more time just how very important what I am doing is. To have to type it to a stranger makes you realize that deep down it really IS your conviction. It is the most important thing I have ever done. And it is vastly MORE important than anything he has done up to this point in his life (and I suspect for many years to come as well). It is exactly the reminder I needed after a week filled with toddler girls fighting over identical Princess plastic dinner plates and writing the cryptic word "BELOPUS" on my bedroom wall in permanent marker (goodbye security deposit!)
So thank you, Jerk-Face.
Your reminder of the Divinity of Motherhood was well timed.
On this topic, may I highly recommend the following books:
I Am a Mother by Jane Clayson Johnson
Mitten Strings for God: Reflections for Mothers in a Hurry by Katrina Kenison
To Mothers: Carrying the Torch of Faith and Family by Jeffrey and Patricia Holland